5 top tips for an amicable (and less expensive) divorce!

If you are thinking about a divorce in 2015, it is worth considering how your approach and behaviour can affect the process. Here are my top tips for an amicable divorce:

1.    Consider all dispute resolution processes. There are various ways in which you can reach an agreement with your spouse, such as attending mediation, negotiating through solicitors or undergoing the collaborative law process. Sometimes court is the most appropriate option for you, but it always pays to consider all of the alternatives.

2.    Look after your emotional health. Divorce is one of the most stressful times of your life and you invariably find yourself relying on friends and family for support. Consider talking to an expert, such as a counsellor.

3.    Send a draft copy of the divorce petition to your ex-spouse before you lodge it at court especially if you rely on the fact of ‘adultery’ or ‘unreasonable behaviour’ to prove the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. If you agree the wording of the petition with your spouse or their solicitor beforehand there is less chance of your spouse defending the divorce. You will save time and legal fees.

4.    Try to keep your promises to your spouse. For example, if you have arranged to see the children try to avoid cancelling it at last minute unless you absolutely have to. Communication with your spouse is key, so if you are running late or need to cancel let your ex know asap.

5.    Be courteous to your spouse especially when you have children, and if you are planning to introduce your new partner to the children, I recommend that you discuss this with your ex first. This can be difficult in the aftermath of the relationship breakdown, but a lot of a solicitor’s time and, therefore, expense can be incurred because of not only what the couple say to each other but also the way it is said.

 
Kate Lovegrove is an experienced family mediator and solicitor and is based in our Tunbridge Wells and Kings Hill offices. Kate is a recommended lawyer in The Legal 500. You can telephone Kate direct on 01892 506 205 or 01732 224 025 or email Kate at kate.lovegrove@cripps.co.uk if you have any questions.