If you are thinking about a divorce
in 2015, it is worth considering how your approach and behaviour can affect the
process. Here are my top tips for an amicable divorce:
all dispute resolution processes. There are various ways in which you can reach
an agreement with your spouse, such as attending mediation, negotiating through
solicitors or undergoing the collaborative law process. Sometimes court is the
most appropriate option for you, but it always pays to consider all of the
after your emotional health. Divorce is one of the most stressful times of your
life and you invariably find yourself relying on friends and family for
support. Consider talking to an expert, such as a counsellor.
draft copy of the divorce petition to your ex-spouse before you lodge it at
court especially if you rely on the fact of ‘adultery’ or ‘unreasonable
behaviour’ to prove the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage. If you agree
the wording of the petition with your spouse or their solicitor beforehand
there is less chance of your spouse defending the divorce. You will save time
and legal fees.
keep your promises to your spouse. For example, if you have arranged to see the
children try to avoid cancelling it at last minute unless you absolutely have
to. Communication with your spouse is key, so if you are running late or need
to cancel let your ex know asap.
courteous to your spouse especially when you have children, and if you are
planning to introduce your new partner to the children, I recommend that you
discuss this with your ex first. This can be difficult in the aftermath
of the relationship breakdown, but a lot of a solicitor’s time and, therefore,
expense can be incurred because of not only what the couple say to each other
but also the way it is said.
Kate Lovegrove is an
experienced family mediator and solicitor and is based in our Tunbridge Wells
and Kings Hill offices. Kate is a recommended lawyer in The Legal 500. You can
telephone Kate direct on 01892 506 205 or 01732 224 025 or email Kate at firstname.lastname@example.org if
you have any questions.